Dress Shopping!

On Saturday I went with my friend and bridesmaid, Kate to look at dresses. Specifically, a Maggie Sottero. Sidebar...why are most bridal shop employees so grumpy?? Well, I must've tried on about a dozen dresses before trying on one that just made my heart pitter pat. So elegant, so sexy and made me look like I was a size 0. It is an original designed by the shop owner so I'm guaranteed that no one else would be wearing it and it's a much deeper ivory than I had originally considered. I gave them my deposit and rushed home to tell D the news. I HAD FOUND MY DRESS!

Well, today was a different story. I took my sister to check out the dress and while she did like it, she made a very good point. This dress was not fancy enough to carry off the kind of affair I'm planning to have. Now, you have understand the kind of people that will be at our wedding. Please note that, each of our guests are down to earth and incredibly fun people. But a few of them have limitless funds and it occurred to me that if I go with this dress, a few of the women at our reception might be dressed better than I am. And we can't have that!!! I never really pictured myself in a big ol' white dress with frills, crystals and the works, but it looks like I'm going to be picturing this for a very long time.

It looks like I'll be switching my deposit over to the Maggie Sottero tomorrow and begin planning the big affair.

looking for a theme

we've narrowed our wedding date down to october, november or december of this year. not exactly real narrow but it will really depend on WHERE we have this shindig. it's important that you know that i am a huge holiday person. i mean, our house is insane during halloween and christmas. for halloween there are spiderwebs hanging from the ceilings, to the chandeliers, over the paintings, and in front of the windows. the lightbulbs are switched out to black lights, blood drips from my oven and most of my furniture is covered in white sheets just like an old abandoned house should be. for christmas, all i need to say is that we have seven, yes, seven trees. does that give you an idea? so when we decided to set a date after over a year of engagement D and i thought that an elegant halloween theme would be cool or maybe a christmas theme. about 10 years ago i had a great idea to have a masquerade ball as a wedding theme. and clearly it was a great idea because the guy i was dating at the time, took that idea and used it when he got married 5 years ago. what a dinkus right?!

check out a few things i've found and let me know what you think.

My very first post

well, i've officially begun my journey into the bride world. and while that is an exciting time for most women, like 'Carrie', i'm missing the bride gene. it could be that a short marriage in my 20's left a bitter taste in my mouth for all things "wedding", but i'm going to give this a shot.

let me tell you a little about myself before we begin. i've spent most of my life in the northeast valley in phoenix, arizona. i am the eldest of 5 children, 4 sisters and one brother and i have a beautiful 7 year old daughter from a previous relationship. ok, this one's hard to put in print but i'm almost 40. yep, i'm hitting the big 4-0 in march and i'm contemplating opening a vein because of it. hell, that could be another blog in and of itself, but i digress.

my fiance, D and i have been together for almost 4 years and met through a mutual friend. ok, truth be told i worked for him, got myself fired because of a wretched lesbian HR woman who had it out for me. yup, he fired a single mother! but 4 years later i find myself a stay at home mom, living in a beautiful home and not much to complain about. (ok, to be honest i have plenty to bitch about but i'm in a good mood today so let's just go with it for now.)

i'm sure there's plenty i'm forgetting but as we go along i'll fill in the blanks. for now, i welcome you along on my journey to try and find my bride gene as i plan our wedding.